Bringing the True Self Home is the focus for Day 3 of Creating Peace From The Inside Out: The Power of Connection for Deepak & Oprah’s 21 Day Meditation Experience.

In today’s meditation, I learned that when we experience our essential self and make it our core identity, we have found the common ground of love and peace to connect with others. Also I learned that my true self shines through when I experience those moments in life when I felt loved, secure, and at peace.   A realization that was made clear is that this core self is the real basis for all successful and rewarding relationships in your life. The true self is fundamentally different than our false self with its ego-centered desires, judgments, and goals. When we try to establish relationships based on our ego needs, we invariably find conflict.

When I really focused on the topic of Bringing the True Self Home, I questioned myself or rather evaluated myself to see which was shining through more my “false” self or true self.  I really dug deep to identify the moments when I had the false self taking the driver seat in my life. Perhaps this is why there was and/or has been conflict in my life and with certain people who I am no longer connected with or lost touch with.  I pondered briefly if maybe they were showing their false self and that’s where the clash came from.  However, I know that the focus is not on what they do, but rather on myself, what I’m doing, what my inner self is showing others.  What self is present?

When journaling today, I reflected on the idea that all relationships come back to how I relate to myself. I listed qualities of relationship such as respect, trust, appreciation, love, non-judgment, caring, compassion, honesty, etc. and how it applies to me.  It was very useful for me to do this and identify how I show each of those qualities to myself. Then I took all of the positive qualities I identified and write down one thing I can do today to show that quality to someone else.

I’ll admit initially I was reluctant on really doing any of these activities that involved interacting with someone, but that would defeat the whole purpose of being able to truly connect with others through all relationships, right??  Lastly, I took all or any negative qualities and wrote down one thing that I could do today to feel better about that specific quality.  Needless to say, I’m learning so much more about myself and honing in on my wellbeing.

Each day it is getting better…

Repeating today’s Centering Thought over and over again:

My true self is the source of peace and love.

Shanti Hum… I am peace.

Until the next message my friend!

Blessings, Love & Light…

Your Exuberant Servant Heart Leader

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Today is Day 2 of Creating Peace From The Inside Out: The Power of Connection of Deepak & Oprah’s 21 Day Meditation Experience.

In today’s meditation, we’re focusing on:

Ideal Relationships and Where They Come From

I learned that ideal relationships are based on how I relate and connect to my core self. To feel loved, respected, cared for, and close to others, I must find and feel those values for myself first. As Oprah said, “All that we seek in relationships will only be found if we start by knowing and actualizing love in our own being.”

I personally struggle with self compassion.  I have always been hard on myself, setting high expectations on myself and doing for others far more than I do for myself.  It’s been a journey learning how to make sure I take care of me because if I don’t then there will not be enough of me left to be there for anyone else.

Another a-ha moment I pretty much had during today’s meditation was that ideal relationships are based on how I relate and connect to my core self.  I REALLY realized that.  I discovered that I have been focused on not feeling loved, wanted, or cared for enough by others when deep down I was seeing a reflection of how I thought of myself.  So if I really want to feel loved, respected, cared for by others I do have to love myself, respect myself, and care for myself as well as show it to those people.  I have to give how I want to receive and I have to FEEL, KNOW love in my own being.

When I went to journal today, it really made me think hard about a lot of interactions or lack of interactions I have with people whether family, friends or even acquaintances.  I had to reflect on how I relate to family, friends, and coworkers and outline three qualities that define successful connection to me. Then I had to reflect upon whether I give other people those same things.

Next I had to write down the things that really push my buttons and cause a lack of peace and connection. Sadly there were quite a few things that really push my buttons, lol.  Next I had to consider how I, from my side, can overcome this disconnect thinking about (and writing)  the positive qualities I can bring out to create a connection.  There were some qualities that I can improve on and bring out such as listening more and truly respecting other people’s opinions.

Lastly, I had to think about someone I’d like to connect with but haven’t yet.  Figuring out and describing a gesture I could make towards them the next time I see them that is comfortable for me was a little bit challenging.  I think because I second guess myself or think I’m overreacting at times or most often I feel my gestures are rejected by many.  So after attempting to figure this out, I set a goal for myself to make test this out… we’ll see how it goes!

Today’s Centering Thought:

My relationships begin within, through love and caring for myself.

I have to constantly remind myself to take care of myself.  Repeating this centering thought throughout today has helped me a great deal.

Karuna Hum… I am compassion.

Until the next message my friend!

Blessings, Love & Light…

Your Exuberant Servant Heart Leader

PS. Don’t forget to sign up for Deepak & Oprah’s 21 Day Meditation Experience.  It is FREE: https://chopracentermeditation.com/  (Check me out in their commercial below)

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